Happy Friday! I hope you had a great week.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how patient are you?
“Patience is a virtue” is a saying that you’ve probably heard or even said, right? But, as the pace of the world gets faster and faster, it can be hard to adhere to these words of wisdom. Speed is something that has been preached as a “marker of success” … fastest internet speeds, fastest data, one stop shopping, next day delivery, etc., etc. This pace can seem to make the idea of patience counterintuitive.
Patience is defined as "the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.” Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all practiced a little more patience? Patience is a skill that needs practice and sharpening. Practicing patience with yourself, others, and life in general can reduce stress and frustrations, allowing you to let go of trying to control the circumstances that are outside of your power.
So, how do you get started incorporating patience as a habit in your life? Here are a few tips to help you be more patient each day:
Identify your triggers. What are some situations that consistently test your patience? By simply identifying them as triggering events, you are gaining back your power over them.Realize the circumstances are causing a fight reaction in your brain and practice emotional regulation.
Reframe the experience. In addition to the emotional response (triggers), there are conscious beliefs and values associated with impatience, too. When a situation that tests your patience arises, think about the situation differently. Instead of asking yourself why is this happening to me, ask why is this happening for me? (For example, you may feel frustrated and disrespected if you have an appointment and the person is 15 minutes late. What do you do? Reframe it and switch roles. Think about a time when you have been running behind and others practiced patience and understanding with you.)
Practice makes permanent. Make patience a habit that you practice on a daily basis.The results will not happen overnight, and I assure you that you may still lose your cool at times, but the more you practice, the more permanent the skill will become.
Today and every day try a little patience on for size 😊! Have a GREAT day; Have a GREAT weekend!