Happy Friday! How was your thought diet this week? Were you able to notice when you were thinking about the past, worrying about the future, or worrying about something outside of your control? Awareness is the first step to making the decision to change your thoughts and ultimately change your life!
This week I received my weekly newsletter from “Jon Gordon, Powerful Strategies for Life”. It shared information that was in a consistent vein of some of my recent posts. It discussed how too often we opt to complain about circumstances, people, or problems and that response can be unhealthy and dysfunctional. Below are some of the strategies he shares that can help you change your response when your first instinct is to complain:
Practice Gratitude. Research shows that when we count three blessings a day, we get a measurable boost in happiness that uplifts and energizes us. It's also physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. Two thoughts cannot occupy our mind at the same time. If you are focusing on gratitude, you can't be negative. You can also energize and engage your coworkers by letting them know you are grateful for them and their work.
Praise Others. Instead of complaining about what others are doing wrong, start focusing on what they are doing right. Praise them and watch as they create more success as a result. Of course, it is ok to point out mistakes from a perspective of helping others learn and grow, but make sure you give three times as much praise as criticism.
Focus on Success. Start a success journal. Each night before you go to bed, write down the one great thing about your day. The one great conversation, accomplishment, or win that you are most proud of. Focus on your success, and you'll look forward to creating more success tomorrow.
Let Go. Focus on the things that you have the power to change and let go of the things that are beyond your control. You’ll be amazed that when you stop trying to control everything, it all somehow works out. Surrender is the answer.
Pray. Scientific research shows that daily prayer reduces stress; boosts positive energy; and promotes health, vitality, and longevity. When you are faced with the urge to complain or you are feeling stressed to the max, stop, be still, plug-in to the ultimate power, and recharge.
(The No Complaining Rule: Positive Ways to Deal with Negativity at Work by Jon Gordon)
You may think complaining feels good (it is kind of deceptive), because it may in the moment; but ultimately it is unproductive, lowers your energetic vibration and definitely brings your mood down! It will even impact the mood(s) of those around you.
Take control of your thought life; raise your vibration and break the complaining habit! When you are tempted to complain, try one or more of these strategies. They will definitely get you out of a “complaining-rut” and assist you in changing your perspective and increasing your joy! Who doesn’t want more joy in their life😊!
Have a great day; have a great weekend!