GOOD MORNING MONDAY – AFFIRMATIVE THOUGHTS FOR A GREAT WEEK
Good Morning! It is Monday again 😊 Remember –you will never have this day again. March to the beat of your own drum. “Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier” (Mother Teresa). Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire. Have a GREAT day. Have a GREAT week. Remember – you’ve got this 😊!!
The last couple of weeks we have been delving into “perception” and “the ladder of inference”. This week I want to reiterate a few points and then share a story that is a great illustration of the ladder of inference. Some things to remember:
You are unique,
You see and interpret things through your own lens,
When you look at the same data as someone else or experience the same situation, you process it through your mental maps; thus, you will see, interpret and react to it differently than another.
Your perceptions are colored by: a) what you believe, b) what you have experienced and c) what has happened to your in your life. How you make sense of the world impacts every aspect of your life. Even when you are looking at “hard facts” you do not pay attention to the same things that others pay attention to; you will select the data that you choose to see. Therefore, your perceptions impact how you respond to others.
Remember the ladder of inference? It describes the thinking processes you go through without even realizing it. Going up the ladder can take less than a second. So, you can be smack dab in the middle of this process and you may not even realize that you are doing it or how you developed your reaction or response. The following short story illustrates the ladder of inference beautifully:
The Cookie Thief
A woman was waiting at the airport one night
with several long hours before her flight
she hunted around for a book in the airport shop,
bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.
She was engrossed in her book, but happened to see
that the man beside her, as bold as can be
grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between
which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.
She munched cookies and watched the clock
as this gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock.
She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by
thinking if I wasn’t so nice, I’d blacken his eye.
With each cookie she took, he took one too,
and when only one was left she wondered what he’d do.
But with a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh,
he took the last cookie and broke it in half.
He offered her half as he ate the other.
She snatched it from him and thought “Oh Brother,”
this guy has some nerve, and is also rude,
he didn’t even show any gratitude.
She’d never known when she had been so galled,
and sighed with relief when her flight was called.
She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,
refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.
She boarded the plane and sank in her seat
then saw her book which was almost complete.
As she reached in her bag she gasped with surprise,
there was her bag of cookies in front of her eyes!
If mine are here, she moaned with despair,
then the others were his and he’d tried to share.
Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,
that she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief!
Remember how fast we travel up the ladder of inference? It can happen in less than a second. Slow down, pause, think about your thinking and check for understanding. Identify what rung of the ladder you are on and determine if you need to go back a rung to understand your own thinking before you jump to conclusions.
It always pays to refresh your perspectives. There are always two sides to a story. Through calm conversation, checking for understanding and really communicating, you expand your view of the world. Will it be easy? Nope. Will it be worth it? Absolutely!
Have a GREAT week. Remember – as you think; so, shall you become! “Whatever you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life” (Deepak Chopra).Be EPIC!!