GOOD MORNING MONDAY –
AFFIRMATIVE THOUGHTS FOR A GREAT WEEK
Good Morning and welcome to a new week! I hope you experienced a great weekend and you feel ready for this new day and new week in front of you. Know that this week is full of whatever possibilities you choose to create. Your life is a work of art, you are the artist and each moment of each day is your canvas. You have the power to create your very own masterpiece. Give yourself permission to let go of whatever is behind you. Choose to look forward, live life fully and make the rest of your life the best of your life because YOU are worth it!
Each week this past month you learned more about the four core skills of emotional intelligence and became aware of various techniques and tips that you could incorporate into your life to improve your skills. Please take a moment not only to reflect on what you learned, but also on what techniques you tried to build new habits and new ways of being. How has it gone? From a “self” perspective, are you becoming more aware of who you are and your emotions? Are you able to control your impulses any better? From an “other” perspective, are you more aware of others’ emotions and your impact on those with whom you connect? How have your interactions with others gone? Make sure you take time to recognize your positive movement forward in this area and celebrate your successes. Congratulations on making the choice to improve you and your connection with others. Do not chastise yourself for those times you did not do as well as you hoped. Remember – this is a life journey. Take time to reflect on what you would change, and next time; change it up! Your past does not have to equal your future. You are a work in progress 😊
To wrap up the series on EQ, I would like (again) to briefly talk about: what EQ is, why it is important and celebrate the fact that it is something that you can deepen. EQ can be developed. This is good news for each one of us!
Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, states “emotional intelligence is the ‘something’ in each of us that is a bit intangible.” He places the four core skills of emotional intelligence into two primary competencies; personal and social. Here is a quick refresher from his book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0:
Personal Competence - your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behaviors and tendencies:
Self-Awareness – ability to perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen,
Self-Management - ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior.
Social Competence - your ability to understand others’ moods, behaviors and motives to improve the quality of your relationships:
Social Awareness – ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on,
Relationship Management – ability to use awareness of your emotions and others’ emotions to manage interactions successfully.
So, at the end of the day, does Emotional Intelligence matter? Research would support this with a resounding YES! Why does it matter? It improves your performance, relationships, earnings, happiness, connections to others, etc. Decades of research now points to emotional intelligence as the critical factor setting star performers apart from the rest of the pack. Following are just a few findings from research that has been conducted as it relates to the link between emotional intelligence and performance:
People with high EQ and average IQ outperform those with highest IQ’s 70% of time;
Talent Smart tested emotional intelligence alongside 33 other important workplace skills and found that emotional intelligence is the strongest predictor of performance, explaining a full 58% of success in all types of jobs;
Studies done by Travis Bradberry’s team found that 90% of top performers are high in emotional intelligence; on flipside just 20 % of bottom performers are high in emotional intelligence;
People with high degrees of emotional intelligence make more money, on average $29,000 more per year than those with low degrees of emotional intelligence;
The link between emotional intelligence and earnings was found to be direct: every point of increase of emotional intelligence increases pay by $1,300 annually (all industries; all levels; every region of the world).
Emotional intelligence impacts everything you say and do each day. Some people have more innate ability in this area than others, but never fear; the good news is that emotional intelligence can be developed; if you are willing to work on it. Emotional intelligence is the art and science of balancing the rational and emotional brain. Plasticity is the term that neurologists use to describe your brain’s ability to change. As you grow any new skills, your brain grows new connections. Employing strategies to increase your emotional intelligence allows your brain to grow new connections and it makes it easier to kick your new behaviors into action for the future. Training your brain by using new emotional intelligence strategies ensures that new emotionally intelligent behaviors become habits. This is a good thing!
Over the last 4 weeks, I shared some strategies to employ in each core skill area of emotional intelligence. Below is one simple strategy taken from each article as a refresher:
Self-Awareness: Create a habit of being self-reflective. At end of day take 10 to 15 minutes reflecting on how the day went. What went well; what did not; the role you played and determine what you want to do about it;
Self-Management: Be aware of how you are feeling. Pause. Slow Down. Breathe. Doing this enables you to make a more conscious choice in your response to the situation;
Social Awareness: Listen. Quiet your mind. Be aware of others’ words, reactions. Seek first to understand then to be understood; and
Relationship Management: Be interested in others; be selfless, curious and grateful. Treat others at they want to be treated.
Continuing to grow your emotional intelligence, brings with it many personal and professional benefits. Emotional intelligence improves work performance, connections with others and creates conditions for higher engagement and happiness in the work environment. This can, in turn, make you and others more creative and productive. As you become more emotionally intelligent, your awareness increases, and you will become more skillful at calming your body and mind. You will see things more clearly and objectively even in difficult situations. Your relationships with others will change for the better: happy relationships become happier; neutral relationships can become happy and unhappy relationships can become more manageable.
Remember that you contribute to half of all your relationships. You can develop, improve and deepen your emotional intelligence skills. You can make the conscious choice to be responsible and own, strengthen and create meaningful, positive relationships. This is a journey of a lifetime and one not to be missed! Enjoy the trip 😊
Have a GREAT week of connections with self and others.